“Cybersex, in all forms of illicit sex from chat rooms to pornography, is a perfect metaphor for life without God in a dramatic attempt to circumvent a life of relational pain. Everything seems real in the illusion, but the meaning is lost in the masquerade of self-satisfaction. There is something that is truly missing.” By Dr. Harry W. Schaumburg · Follow on Twitter

Alternative Sex: Is It Really An Alternative?

By Dr. Harry W. Schaumburg, LMFT The movie, Fifty Shades of Grey, opens Thursday night just before Valentine’s Day, and it is reported it will be Fandango’s top five advance ticket-sellers in the company’s 15-year history. That’s right up there with Harry Potter, Hunger Games and Twilight movies. Interest in the movie grows as people […]

Your Husband Looks at Porn: Now What?

(First published in Today’s Christian Woman) Dr. Harry W. Schaumburg Typically the event doesn’t start with a confession, but by discovering your husband has a secret problem with lust, masturbation, and pornography. Faced with horrifying acts of betrayal, your reactions may range from sadness to depression, anger to rage, to sexual disinterest, to having an […]

Message To Parents

Romeo and Juliet is a tragic Shakespearean romance about two young lovers whose deaths ultimately reconcile their feuding families. Juliet was just shy of fourteen years of age. Today, thirteen-year-old girls may long for a romantic relationship with their “Romeo” only to be pressured into performing sex on the boy who then puts the video […]

Lust Is Dangerous!

Lust often goes no further than visual sex, yet there is a loss of control of the lustful thoughts. Contrary to the disease model there remains for many a strong motivation of fear that controls the progression of the behavior. For others, the loss of control coupled with living in a digital world quickly moves […]

From Our Stone Builder Newsletter: The Danger of Looking Back

The women of the Bible present fascinating stories, but it is important to remember their exploits, faith and courage as instruction to all us. Ruth’s story is 3000 years old yet highly relevant instruction regarding the sovereignty of God, the sexual nature of humanity and the mercy of God. Sarah was so beautiful kings desired […]

The Occupational Hazards of Ministry

DR. HARRY W. SCHAUMBURG The Bible holds the office of elder in high esteem. Whoever desires to be a pastor has set his heart on a noble task because it involves the oversight of God’s people through ruling and teaching. To do the job requires not only knowledge and wisdom, but also a well-guarded heart, […]